So what is a First Lady? In simple terms and primarily in the black churches, she is the Pastor’s wife. But not just the Pastors wife. She normally has a special role in the church, she has special privilidges and she is treated differently than other women in the church. She is also expected to almost appear perfect to the congregation and the expectations from her are high. Karen Clark-Sheard of the Clark Sisters explains what the role of the First Lady should be in the video below.

As much as I have loved the Clark Sisters music, to hear Karen say things such as the First Lady should be the best dressed person in the church to ‘set the standard’ breaks my heart and I am realising more and more that some of the gospel artists that so many people look up to, when you sit them down and listen to what they have to say, theologically, they are found to be wanting….but I’ll leave that blog to another day

Also, the TLC channel has been running a reality show on First Ladies called ‘The Sisterhood’. Here was the preview

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So what role should a pastor’s wife or elder’s wife play in the church? What are her responsibilities? How can she serve as a helpmate to her husband in the ministry? 

As per 9 Marks ministry:

THERE IS NO “PASTOR’S WIFE” OFFICE

The first thing to say on this topic is that the Bible does not establish an office for “elder/pastor wife.” It doesn’t offer her a job description. This in turn means an elder’s wife should not feel forced into some mold or set of expectations. Rather, an elder’s wife should feel free to simply be a happy, healthy, growing Christian who seeks to fulfill the “one another” commands in the context of her church just like every other member should. 

Shouldn’t the pastor/elder’s wife seek to love and serve the church as occasion permits and as gifts allow? Yes, but only because she is a Christian, not because she is an elder’s wife.

Some pastors’ wives will want to play the piano, run VBS, and lead the women’s retreat. Great! Others will find themselves more fully occupied in the home as well as in the work of private hospitality or neighborhood evangelism. Great!

An elder or pastor’s wife, like every Christian, should engage in private ministry. But there is nothing in the Bible which says that she must engage in public ministry. 

But it doesn’t stop there. As mentioned in my post Blinded By Loyalty, we now also have First Gentlemen. Below is Lexi interviewing Bishop Oliver Clyde Allen and ‘First Gentleman’ Rashad. This is an example of what happens when people hold a low view of scripture and hold their own opinions higher.

So in summary, NOWHERE in scripture do you see First Ladies how we see it today, no where in scripture does it specifically mention the role of pastors wives that is no different than any other persons wife to a husband who may be in a different ministry. The aspects may be different but it is basically the same. Do not let these traditions blind you to the truth of God’s word

BUT DONT TAKE MY WORD FOR IT. CHECK OUT THE SCRIPTURES FOR YOURSELF

Related Posts:

The traditions of men making the Word of God of none effect – Introduction

The traditions of men making the Word of God of none effect (Part 1) : Pleading the blood

The traditions of men making the Word of God of none effect (Part 2) : Tithing

The traditions of men making the Word of God of none effect (Part 3) : Getting a confirmation from God

The traditions of men making the Word of God of none effect (Part 4) : Getting slain in the spirit

The traditions of men making the Word of God of none effect (Part 5) : Armor Bearers

The traditions of men making the Word of God of none effect (Part 6) – Decreeing and Declaring

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Comments
  1. Tarre Stanley says:

    Truthfully, the level of ignorance and stupidity Christians display and put up with really angers and disappoints me. Why do we just go about making up things that have no relevance or value in the life of a Christian. Have we forgotten what humility is?

  2. Fantastic post on a topic the Church does not address…. ever.
    We need more people exposing the false doctrines and error in the Church. But then it MUST be done in true genuine love or we are creating more problems than there were to begin with.

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