Save yourself some pain

Posted: September 6, 2007 in Maturing in Christ, The Gospel
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Are you a new christian or struggling in your christian walk?

Then save yourself some pain. Click here and read these 10 principles that will help you to grow and mature in the faith if you obey them.

  1. Doug says:

    Hey all,

    I think I have Jesus in my heart, but I’ve been stuggling with my feelings/mind. I’ve been doubting off and on if God is real and too doubting the word of God( The Bible). however, I want there to be a God and too when ever I start doubting i try to refute it.

  2. Alan Higgins says:

    Doug, what makes you think that you have ‘Jesus in your hert’?

  3. Doug says:

    like what do u mean?

  4. Doug says:

    Like i’ve asked Jesus in to my heart, and meant it

  5. Alan Higgins says:

    But what does asking ‘Jesus in your heart and really meaning it’? I am not trying to be perdantic here but many people have done that but they are not christians and are actually false converts (not saying that this what you are as I dont know you).

    So here is what I would advise. Go to and especially listen to the last video

    Examine yourself to see if you are truly in the faith. See

    Listen to this video called True and False Conversion
    as it could truly be an eye opener

    Please let me know what you think

  6. Doug says:

    your right, I’m not a real christian, like that kid who was 18 said that he had asked Jesus into his heart at a young age, but when he turned 16 I think he asked something and God put a desire in his heart to learn more, to yurn for Him, but I’m only 50% sure that Jesus is the Son of God and 50% that there is a God. I don’t know if God whats me because I keep trying force myself to believe in God and In Jesus. Is there hope for me? I what to believe and have faith and to yurn for Him. when I was younger, I would want to give up faith but I felt like God was hanging to me, maybe I sinned to much, he doesn’t what me anymore. I don’t know, does he forgive all sins. even if I did a major one on the church property. too it seems like my heart is hardened. Will He help me take up my cross and follow Him? Also I’m really self-centered. I do and I don’t want to change. Can you give me advice?

    Thanks for showing me this

  7. Alan Higgins says:

    Doug as long as you are breathing, there is still hope. So start from scartch. Have a read of ‘A message to non-Christians’ at the top of this website.

    Christ is took the punishment for ALL your sins and if you repent and put your trust in in, he will not count ANY of those sins against you because Christ took the punishment in your place. Isnt that a good deal? I have done things that I am not proud of and I am sure many other christians have as well so you are not alone but Christ paid the fine for us so that we (and you) can inherit eternal life

  8. Doug says:

    thank you!!!

  9. brandon says:

    Doug.. im not wierd but I love you.. like you are just like me! I (today) asked Jesus into my heart thinking thats what i had to do(while having a strong belief and faith in him).. but i still doubt my salvation. Im gonna check out the vids from alan to see if i can be helped.

  10. Mark says:

    I seriously doubt that anyone KNOWS they are saved. You can have faith you are saved. You can try to really beleive in Him. You can do, say, think, beleive, etc all the ‘”right” things. But it comes down to this. No one knows the mind of God. No one knows what God has in store for them, whether it be heaven or hell. I know, some will claim to ‘know’, but that is a clever device that people use to feel good. If one says they ‘know’ what God has for them, they are in essence putting themselves on a plane with God–How could you know what God thinks? You can’t. An example. You are in a contest with a judge. Do you already know the outcome of the judge’s decision? Of course not, if you did, it would not really be a contest. You would have the judge “in your pocket” i.e. you would be dictating what the judge decides. How could man be so self-elevating to presume to know what tomorrow brings, much less his eternal fate? How proud. All we have is belief, or faith if you like, but no one knows the mind of God. Even Christ Himself does not know the day of His return, only the Father. If Christ does not know certain aspects of the future, why/how do we think we would? Let’s all come back down to earth where we really are and accept that we are human and God is God. I may believe to be saved, but that does not make it so. Only God makes it so, and as I am not Him, I don’t know what He really thinks of me. We do not have supernatural powers or perspective so let’s stop pretending we do. All we can do is live as best we can, beleive in Him, and hope That’s it. The real fate is out of our hands.

    • Ernest Leyba says:

      You can know your saved by just believing that he died for you on the cross!!! I don’t feel I’m saved, I believe I’m saved!!! I also believe he gives me the victory over sin, because I believe it!!! Believing is the victory!!! Nothing else!!! Even when I slip in sin, my new nature is hurt for sinning, I know I still have the old nature I was born with! But my mind is to walk forward to get the victory over sin! God sees that!! Because I believe he sees that!! Its believing that God’s Grace is real!!! His Grace saves you!! His Grace gives you the victory!! Because I believe it!! I can’t see it!! I can’t feel it!! I believe it!!!!!!!!

  11. cindy says:


    I have been recently studying the word of God. And have been on fire for God. And just overnight have recently lost that fire. I am in prayer daily especially about this. What would you suggest ? I dont feel as if my prayers are being heard.

  12. Krissy says:

    I just wanted to say thank you!! This website has helped me see the truth and helped me get back on the right path. I was lost and looking for answers and needed help and just happened to come across this page. I have given my life to Jesus Christ and am ready for whatever he has in store for me.
    thank you.

  13. Stacy says:

    I grew up in a Christian home, Christian school, and Church every Sunday – I believed I was saved and considered myself a Christian. In my teens I quit going to Church but still believed i was okay with God and if I died i would go to Heaven. I am now 43, about 2 years ago my oldest daughter had an abortion. I was sick to my stomach about it and so was she – my husband and I paid for it. The guilt was killing me. I knew I had hurt God and it was tearing me up. About a week later I was home alone and all of the sudden I had a vision of myself standing and looking up to God and then this complete knowledge of eternity filled my mind and then the feeling of eternity without God filled my mind and broke my heart so bad. I could feel Gods presents and I know He was with me and letting me experience this. Then He opened my eyes to ALL of my sins, my whole life. I fell to my knees and just bawled my eyes out and begged for forgiveness. This all took place in about 1 second believe it or not. I was repenting and asking for forgiveness for about 3 days. I was affraid that God had rejected me. I knew that I was never the Christian I had prefessed to be. I was so blind. I also realized how many times He had saved me – I should have died at least 3 times in my life and only He prevented it. I started to read my Bible and desired to know God so bad…I had a really hard time because I still didn’t understand why that had happened. when I hear some peoples testamonies, they say that when they were saved they felt such love and forgiveness like they never had before. I have yet to feel that. I still struggle with what happened. It was the most amazing yet terrifying thing that has ever happened to me. God is real and he is so powerful. I read 2 Chorinthians 7: 8-10, and I realized God brought me to repentance. I go back and forth feeling secure of my salvation. The more I read the Bible the better I feel, but when I slack and don’t read, then the guilt and seperation sets in.

    I guess I am posting this because I need to know if anyone else has ever experienced anything like this? and if so I just want to hear your thoughts and how you are doing. I still consider myself a baby Christian, well toddler I guess – I know I should be much deeper in my realtionship with God.

    Please pray for me and I will be praying for all of you that I have read about on here.

    Thank you! God bless!


  14. Stacy, I feel exactly like you.

  15. Stacy says:

    Tonya, This was my daily verse on my phone today! I thought of you…. 🙂 God Bless!
    Philippians 1:6

  16. Tonya Sitzlar says:

    Stacy, I just now saw your post! Thanks! 🙂

  17. Cole Bush says:

    Alan, i was saved two years ago and baptized, but i was young and i didn’t fully understand it, and i think i didn’t truly believe until later on when i needed help and prayed to God and He helped me. But what worries me is when i hear about salvation i hear that you can’t be truly saved unless you truly believe. and i don’t think i truly believed when i was saved that day two years ago. so now I’m really worried if i am truly saved or not. i read the article above and most of those things i do “do” which leans me towards that i am truly saved but it bothers me that two years ago i don’t know if i was truly saved or not because i was young, arrogant, and didn’t really understand the meaning of salvation until later on when God definitely started working in my heart but I’ve heard that when you know God has been working in your heart then you are saved. But last night God spoke to me and i said the sinners prayer myself from a page on the internet and had a feeling like i had never really had before. definitely not when i was saved two years ago. so I’m debating and praying if last night was my true salvation or if it was two years ago and if i need to get baptized again. and when God started working in my heart over the past year or so, if He was just weakening my hardened heart so that i need to get saved again that ill understand it a lot better. I’m really confused and I’m praying and praying about it. but i don’t wanna get saved again because id rather be “safe than sorry” but rather be saved again because now i understand God a lot better than what i used to and that I’m getting saved because i truly love him. and I’m also having a lot of trouble with what “true belief” is instead of being saved and “making” myself believe.

  18. Antonio says:

    I am a bad christan..straight up..I need some real christans in my life..seriously

  19. Nicole19 says:

    i do not think that anyone can tell you if u are saved or not god said seek and you shall find and and accept my son and i will accept you i think it went a little different . For go so loved the world that he gave his only begotton son that they may be saved …. anyone that tells you that you are not saved because of something you have done before or after being saved . is judging you and lieing to you. in the bible it says men. all sins will be forgiven but blaspamy against the holy spirit will not. which to me is not believeing or ever accepting jesus as your savior at all as long as you live. jesus died for our sins past present and future and he knows what its like to be us and what we are all going through . and no one is or ever will be perfect but him . we would not need a savior if we were perfect . even after we are saved we all still sin , but the holy spirit will make us want to turn away from our sins, and gradually we will become less sinful more loving and more godly . but no one will ever be perfect….. to me all this talk about fake christians is the enemy.and saying i would have to meet you to see if u are saved thats not right either .. who knows i may be wrong but im just going off what the bible says not what others say .jesus is the way the truth and the life!!! . god bless all of you and to be totally honest this site kinda creeps me out .my pastor told me to stay off sites like these because the enemy is trying to get to us to make us think we are not saved !!! idk if this will help but god bless you all and keep you head up because the one guy was right god knows better then any of us do !!!!

    • Alan Higgins says:

      Nicole, the bible makes it VERY clear that their will be many people who think that they are Christians when they are not. The Bible makes it clear that we should examine ourselves to make sure that we are TRULY in the faith. All sins will be forgiven but only those who have TRULY repented of their sins and put their trust in Christ and Christ alone for their salvation. Where have I said that you need to be perfect? Please read my notes to non Christians at the top of the blog. If you are saved, then good for you but there are many people who are deceived into thinking that they are saved when it was just a false conversion and I have testimonies of people who went through the motions of church but we’re never truly saved. Now please tell me anything that I have stated here that is NOT biblical

  20. Nicole19 says:


    For those of you who struggle with having certainty as to whether or not your name will be found in the Lamb’s Book of Life, rest assured dear friends, because confidence in your salvation is within reach. While I myself have never struggled with this particular quandary, I know many who have and some who still do. It truly is a devious scheme set in motion by the devil: The soul has been saved and all of heaven rejoices, yet then out of the ashes rises a veil of confusion which is unleashed relentlessly upon the unsuspecting new believer, clouding the facts, darkening reality and replacing the liberating joy of salvation with the paralyzing fear of uncertainty.

    Well done, thou dark and sinister enemy. You aren’t much threat to him if you don’t even know you are saved.

    It will help all of us to remember, first and foremost, that the devil operates primarily and sometimes entirely on deception. His is a business of lying and he is very, very good at it. We’re living here today on this fallen earth because the first man and woman created in the glorious image of God were enticed into questioning Him, believing the lies of the devil instead and then worse, they followed his advice. Satan’s question to Eve in Genesis 3:1; “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” (NIV)

    Yes, He really did.

    What does this mean in terms of questioning your salvation? It means we need to pay close attention to what God has said about it, we need to be aware of the devil’s masterful ability to twist the word of God in order to lead us astray, and we need to learn to rely on what we know, not what we feel.

    Let me clarify what I’m talking about in regards to questioning salvation, because there are multiple reasons why one may question their salvation. In this instance, I’m speaking of the individual who, at some point in their life, has responded to an invitation to accept Christ- yet they do not know if their soul has really been saved. This uncertainty may lead them to make multiple trips to the alter to respond to the same invitation, having the desire to be saved time and again, sometimes year after year, because they are driven by fear and insecurity based in a lack of knowledge.

    It most often seems that the problem arises when one begins to question what exactly is supposed to happen, in a physical sense, when one becomes saved. Sometimes location comes into play, questioning whether or not salvation was achieved if it didn’t happen in a church. Because being saved signifies a spiritual conversion, in many cases people do not know how they are supposed to feel as a result. Sometimes there are preconceived notions based on the salvation experience of another, and when their own experience doesn’t follow suit, there is doubt. Or perhaps salvation was achieved as a child, and now as an adult one isn’t sure if that childhood choice was enough to count.

    There are many different situations, but the bottom line is this: Jesus died for the express purpose of giving a fallen humanity a way to become right with God, and His desire is not only for you to accept His pardon for your sins, but also to enjoy the security that comes from knowing you will have eternal life in the Kingdom of God.

    If you don’t know whether or not you’re saved, let’s take a look at how it works.

    John 3:16-18;

    For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. (NIV)

    Jesus made it perfectly clear in John 14:6;

    “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (NIV)

    Jesus is called the Lamb of God because he gave his life as a sacrifice to cover the sin of humanity, he took our sin upon himself and paid for it by dying on the cross, thereby making a way for us to receive right standing with God.

    2 Corinthians 5:21;

    God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. (NIV)

    While salvation may be defined using various terms such as becoming saved, accepting Christ, or being born again, it all boils down to the same thing. Accepting Christ means that you have recognized the need for Christ’s pardon of your sins and accepted His gift to you of salvation, being born again signifies the spiritual rebirth which takes place within you upon your belief in and acceptance of Christ and His atonement for your sin, and being saved means that you have made a conscious decision to accept Christ, you became born of the Spirit as a result, and are now no longer one of the ‘lost’, who are still without God.

    It does require that you understand who Jesus Christ is and what He did for you by dying on the cross, and it also requires that you personally accept His atonement for your sin. The rest is up to God, and all we must do is believe it.

    To clear up any further confusion, it should help to know that there isn’t a set of rules one must follow in order to receive salvation. It can happen as a child. It can happen as an adult. It doesn’t have to happen at the alter in your church. It doesn’t even have to happen in a church at all. Salvation is not something that is administered to you by a spiritual leader. It is something that happens between you and Jesus Christ, and it can happen anywhere you are, because God is without walls. You cannot do anything to earn salvation, other than to accept Christ’s pardon for your sins, it is a gift of God. How you feel at the time you are saved, or even after you are saved, will vary from person to person. If two people make the same decision to accept Christ, one may have an emotional experience, the other may not, and both will be saved. No matter where, no matter when, no matter how you felt at the time or how you feel right now, if you made a conscious decision to accept Christ, you are saved.

    Don’t let the devil tell you otherwise.

    1 John 5:11-13

    And this is the testimony: God has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life. I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life. (NIV)

    Does the bible really say that?

    Yes, it really does.

    Visitor Question: I heard that when you get saved you’ll know. I heard that you’ll cry a lot when it happens. Is this true. What does it feel like to be saved?

    Visitor Name: Melissa

    Faith’s Answer: What it feels like to be saved is different for everyone, because everyone is different. For some, being saved is a very emotional experience, for others, it just a decision they’ve made. I don’t like to hear it when someone has been told how they should ‘feel’ after being saved, that just tends to confuse people. I can’t tell you what it will feel like for you to be saved, but I can tell you what it will mean: When you accept Jesus as your Savior, you receive forgiveness for your sins and you will be in Heaven when you die. When you are saved, you’ve become a child of God. That’s what being saved means. How you feel throughout the process is secondary to the actual decision you’ve made to accept Christ. Most people do feel various degrees of happiness when they’ve been saved, it’s a joy to know that you’ll be in Heaven when you die, isn’t it? But regardless of how a person feels when they’re saved, it’s the decision that saves you, not the way you feel.

    Visitor Question: Once you become saved do you remain saved? I have recently received Jesus in my heart, but not being brought up in the church I have very little knowledge of Jesus’ teachings, I know I have to read and study the bible. If you sin after you are saved what happens?

    Visitor Name: Jude

    Faith’s Answer: The ‘once saved-always saved?’ question is something that is debated in religious circles. Personally, I feel that once a person accepts Christ, that person’s salvation is secure from that day on. This does not mean that Christians don’t sin, on the contrary, we do. Everyone sins. Even after we become saved, we still sin, because we are human and we live in a fallen world. Have a look at what the apostle Paul has to say about it:

    Romans 7:18-25

    18 I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do–this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. 21 So I find this law at

    work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? 25 Thanks be to God–through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in the sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.

    We are saved by grace, and it is that same grace that covers a Christian when we sin. We need to do our best not to sin, and to honor God with our hearts in every way we can. But when we fall short, Christ is there to forgive us, redirect us, and put us back up on our feet. It does not mean we lose our salvation. When you’ve accepted Christ as your savior, you become a child of God and your salvation is secure. Think of it this way: if you had a child, and that child did something wrong, you corrected him, but you didn’t cast him out of your house. It is that way with God once you’ve become saved.

    About The Author:
    Saraiah Faith Gracie is the author of the novel Soulfinder and a coordinating children’s book entitled God Sees. Along with writing various biblical based articles, Faith is currently working on her next novel entitled Jude Christopher. In her spare time, Faith works as a wildlife rehabilitator for a local animal rescue organization. If you would like to know more about Faith’s writing, go to for additional information.

  21. Nicole19 says:

    i like some things that u have wrote. and im not saying u are wrong but to scare people or to say that u dont know if they are saved because u have not met them is can u know forsure that anyone is saved just from meeting them . ,and i believe that there will be people that struggle with there salvation there whole life and still go to heavan . idk to me its like you are saying in a since… say your a smoker and you get saved but u continue to smoke the rest of your life even after you are saved you are not saved but going to hell ? same with any other sin ? do u see where my confusion is comming from ?

  22. Nicole19 says:

    i like alot of things u had to say also ..some things just made me feel like the sins i am struggling with like smoking means im not truly saved and that i will go to hell .idk maybe i just took u wrong all together ?

    • Alan Higgins says:

      Not at all. If you look at the link above, you will see that a good sign of a believer is that we (yes we including me) struggle with sin and the very fact that you stated struggle is a good indicator. I would never say that a person who smokes is going to hell

  23. Nicole19 says:

    and if i did im am truly sorry for that

  24. Nicole19 says:

    well then i am truly sorry 🙂 for thinking that. i am still a baby so i dont completly understand it all yet but i do have a great hunger to learn and understand jesus better . i have been reading my bible everyday . i got so deep into reading last night i read all of mathew and alot of mark . i finished mark today and started on the book of luke . i must say that i do feel alot of doubt about my salvation though, my pastor told me to stick to the word cause that is the truth and not let the enemy get to me because that is where my doubt come from . its like i am almost on an emotional rollar coaster . im up then im down. :/ which probably explains why i thought u was saying i was going to hell for my sins

    • Alan Higgins says:

      When we are young in the faith, that is natural and we will have doubts etc (I know I did) but as your pastor rightly stated, stick to the word. We will always be learning and will never ‘arrive’ until Christ makes us perfect. What you are feeling is normal. Just stay in teh word, stay in prayer and stay in fellowship with like minded believers

  25. Nicole19 says:

    thank you and god bless you 🙂

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