OK, so summer has finally arrived in the UK (well sort of if you know anything about the British weather). For most single christian men (and dare I say some married also), that can only mean one thing. The battle with the flesh is intensified. Girls walking around in their skimpy outfits does not help a brother keep his mind on the Lord. In fact if we are honest, the mind of a man seems to have its own ‘mind’ and just reinforces the depravity of man. As sincere as we are, our minds sometime slip into lustful thoughts and some of us have been trapped by things such as pornagraphy and masturbation or the ‘Master Bait’ as one person put it. We cannot rebuke ‘in the name of Jesus’ the attraction towards the opposite sex as these feeling are God-given. As one person said, you cannot stop the birds from flying over your head but you can stop them making a nest there

So what can you do to help you overcome? Here are some practical steps which I hope will help

  1. I think the first thing is to fill your mind with the word of God. The mind is where the battle starts and that is what has to be renewed by the washing of the word (Romans 12:2)
  2. If you have to, keep busy if you find that boredom makes your mind go astray
  3. Block TV channels. If you have to use a PIN to access certain channels, get a friend to block the channels on your behalf and not reveal the PIN to you. That way, even if you get tempted to ‘just put the PIN in’, you can’t. So in other words. ‘cut off your right hand’ (Matthew 54:30)
  4. Use accountability software for your computer. X3watch is free accountability software designed to help with online integrity. When you browse the internet and access a site which may contain questionable material, the program will record the site name. A person of your choice (an accountability partner) will receive an email containing all questionable sites you may have visited. This information is meant to encourage open and honest conversation between friends and help you be more accountable to your online adventures
  5. Avoid places and situations, if you can, that will just feed your lust and know your limits and dont try to justify it. Sin can be so deceiving (Hebrews 3:13)

These are just a few guidelines and are by no means exhaustive but I pray that it will help men, not only in the summer but throughout every season. It truly is a battle.

  1. Douglas K. Adu-Boahen says:

    I work in a computer store right now, and all these girls come into the shops with their laptops, and to honest, it is a struggle to ignore some of the stuff they’re wearing. Add to that the fact that some of the guys I work with have mouths so dirty it is a miracle they don’t have asthma, and a post like this becomes very helpful. Thanks bro! 😀

  2. Luke says:

    Pornography and other sexualized media seems to be everywhere today. I love some of your thoughts here.

    You mentioned X3watch. Have you heard of Covenant Eyes accountability software? They have some added features that makes for a suburb program. If you want to check it out go to CovenantEyes.com and use the promotional code ‘onefree’ to receive a free 30 day trial of the program.

    I love that quote: “you cannot stop the birds from flying over your head but you can stop them making a nest there.” I believe it was Martin Luther who said that.

  3. John says:

    Thanks for the post.
    I’ve found steps #1,2 & 5 to be very helpful in my life.
    I’m a married man. I live in the greater Los Angeles area and
    work in downtown Los Angeles.
    Let me tell you, when the warm weather arrives here, the women’s clothes seem to almost melt away.
    Add to that the general cultural atmosphere in the United States, and Los Angeles in particular, and it’s a constant
    battle against lustful thoughts.
    My wife and I limit our television viewing to almost exclusively news progamming, but we still encounter a near constant barrage of female “newscasters” with plunging necklines & tight fitting, figure-hugging apparel.
    I find it helpful to remember the source of the temptation and I repeat our Lord’s rebuke: Get behind me, Satan, you are a stumbling block to me!
    The battle rages on!

  4. Laura says:

    I’m just thankful that men don’t walk round in thongs – although come to think of it, that’s not a particularly attractive thought anyway!?!

    I do think it’s easier for women, the way women and men dress (obviously) is so different. It would be difficult for a man to ’emphasise his assets’ in the same way that women do. I think women should take more responsibility for the things they choose to wear – or not wear as the case usually is. Infact there’s even women in church that I can think of who really should re-think their outfits.

    The net and TV are minefields regarding sexual sin, I dread to think what it’ll be like once my children grow up. We may have to experience an in-house entertainment ban!

    • Dolores says:

      as a Christian woman (single) and with normal healthy feelings I do struggle with my feelings. I would love to get married and by choice I have been single for the last 15 years after losing my son. I feel I have come back to life and want a man, my way of dealing with my sexual feelings, I pour all my energies into my life and work. I also pray.
      Women can be tempted by porn sites as well so I have locks on my phone and laptop

      • Leah says:

        I’m here to tell you that men are not the only ones tempted by sexual thoughts. Trust me it happens to women too. I personally struggle with it.

  5. Dan says:

    I am happy to see that you are not endorsing the book “Every Man’s Battle” (made my battle worse by far) … I also would like to point you to some good teaching on this topic and any spiritual warfare issues. you can go Freedom in Christ Ministries, http://www.ficm.org headed by John Anderson.

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