…go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector. (Matthew 18:15-17)
This is an issue that happened to me very recently and even though the person didnt sin aginst me personally, they were sinning while ministering up front on a Sunday. In a nutshell, on their facebook page, they were consistently using bad language and this included the F-bomb. A part of me wanted to stay out of it but the other part of me knew what the bible said in these circumstances and also knew what damage they could do to those who looked up to them in church
Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness (Galatians 6:1)
To me this was more about the name of Christ and to be honest I was concerned with their salvation. I did not want to come across as ‘holier than thou’ but at the same time, if they were a false convert or self-deceived, it would be unloving of me not to confront their sin. I had already mentioned it before to them but after a while, it obviously did not sink in. I then told them that I wanted to speak to them in church but we kept missing each other so I emailed him instead to let him know what I was going to speak to them about
ME:I am worried about your spiritual being and your salvation. I have seen some of your statuses and you comment on a video with the f word. It is not a good witness for Christ at all
Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. (Eph 4:29-31)
THEM:alan,thank you for all your worries and everything but i dont really need somebody to keep pointing out what im doing with my life. Im sure theres plenty of people from within our church and the christian belief that use language that they are used to using in every day life.
i’m starting to find that the more a few people keep trying to point things out to me about the language i use and the way i may behave or construct my sentences on the internet is actually putting me of wanting to be around such people.
please take this into consideration and if you dont want to see my status feel free to delete me from our friend tho i will not have any hard feelings as im sure it will put your worries to rest
ME: OK. Please just read this post on my blog when you get a chance
One of the signs of a person who is regenerated is that they embrace biblical correction and so this worried me. However, when I read this I wished that I did speak to them face to face as I think that I may have come across a bit brash. Anyway because of their response, under the principle of Matthew 18:15-17 I decided to bring in a few others before taking it to the leadership in the church. Unbeknown to me, I found out that I was not the first person who had brought up this persons bad language and it had already gone to one of the Pastors. I have now left it in their hands to deal with
Dealing with another persons sin can be very awkward. None of us are sinless which makes it harder as we will no doubtedly be accused of ‘judging’ but as Paul Washer says, when you have a new relationship with Christ, you should also have a new realtionship with sin also and therefore it is our attitude towards sin which speaks volumes