Taken from DaSouth


Yes, I said it, in fact, I’ll say it again, MASTURBATION! I figure if a few thousand of the millions here on Myspace can expose their breast, proposition you for sex, have degrading music, and nakedness can have the audacity to request me as a friend , then I can say MASTURBATION and tell the truth about it! And given that many of you are doing it or have, let’s talk about it. Since the majority of us have at least a 3rd grade education, I’ll begin by defining what it is.

Masturbation: the excitation or erotic stimulation of one’s own or another’s genitals to achieve an orgasm by practices other than coitus/sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation, usually manually, occasionally by sexual fantasies or by various combinations of these agencies. Self-gratification, autoeroticism, self-abuse. From the Latin word masturbatus and manstupare, meaning to stir up, to defile oneself, to dishonor, to stupefy.


I have heard it said by many, especially by “Christians”, that masturbation is not sex and even if you don’t have a third grade education, you can clearly see that masturbation is sex. But many like to use that as an excuse to do it so that they can get a little sex without going “all the way”. But whether you have sexual intercourse or sexually manipulate your own genitals to achieve an orgasm, you are having sex. The reason why you masturbate is to achieve an orgasm. And an orgasm is the culmination, the climax of any sexual act, whether it’s with a partner(s) or sex with yourself. And that’s exactly what masturbation is, solo sex.

Okay, now that we agree that masturbation is sex, then what is wrong with it? I’m glad you asked. For those of you who don’t believe in God or live for Him, then this is not for you. But for those of us who not only “believe” in Him, but have actually made Him to be Lord, the One Who governs our lives, then I think it would be only fitting that we investigate what He has to say about it. In order to do that we have to go to God’s Space, especially for those of you who say that masturbation is not in the Bible.

“Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly-but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder.” *



The Truth About Sex

You know what I love? The fact that God knows that sex is a good thing makes me want to stop typing and do a tap dance and a cartwheel! In fact, He’s the One that created it! And it wasn’t a mistake! He did it on purpose, as a gift for His children to enjoy! Imagine God before the foundation of the world, creating an orgasm?!!!!! My God, I feel a praise coming on!!! The sensation that many long to achieve was instituted, manufactured and conceived in the factory of God’s mind. He knew the functionality of it, the mechanics of it, and the modus operandi. And God’s method of operation for sex is marriage. He created the fibers of sex to be so strong that it could only be contained in the confines of marriage. What is marriage, that only It can contain the orgasm? Because only a contractual covenant can contain something so strong…Anything outside that method would self destruct. Any other orgasm achieved outside of marriage couldn’t handle its intense, explosive, addictive, domineering, gripping force without repercussions. Yes, you could very well achieve and very much well, enjoy one, but not without suffering the impact of its climactic aftershocks. Yes, I just said it, Church! Yes, the tremors may feel good, but the aftermath, the consequences of an illegal orgasm is traumatic. You can reach the heights of sexual stimulation during masturbation, but can you handle its control over your life?

Masturbation is what I’d like to call, tormenting pleasure. The three second blissful orgasm achieved by masturbation is just as much tormenting as it is pleasurable. Because God never created solo sex. Masturbation often promises the pleasure but can never fulfill your inward void. And the many people that it has imprisoned by its non~threatening lure to satisfy your sexual desires, come to find that the trap is not worth the 3 seconds it took to get it. Trust me, I’ve been there, and I’d rather have cold, dry sheets than to fondle my self. Two things I’ve come to know about masturbation is this:

1. It brings shame, and…
2. It is addictive

Most people who have engaged in masturbation know that the culmination of this sexual act ends in shame. I don’t have to share with you the thousands of emails of the admittance of this shame because you know all too well since you have experienced it yourself. Curled up in a fetal position, crying, because your bed is even more empty and you’re lonelier than you did before you violated yourself…Because God never created sex so that you could gratify yourself. The dictionary defined masturbation as self abuse…the miss use of yourself. The mistreatment, the manipulation, the exploitation of YOU.

Self abuse from the 1605 Etymology dictionary says that it is self-deception, a synonym for masturbation or self pollution. The American Heritage Stedman’s Medical Dictionary says it is the abuse of oneself or one’s abilities.

And if that’s not already agonizing, it’s a never ending cycle that you habitually become dependant upon, like a drug. And like any other drug, you can never achieve the high you’re looking for…Because MASTERbation will MASTER you! You enter into a contractual agreement with it and it will govern your life sexually. It will rule and control your life…it taps you on the shoulder 3 o’clock in the morning even when you don’t want it. You want to stop but you can’t. You cry, you repent and say you won’t do it any more but you find yourself molesting yourself again…When will it ever end? I’m here to tell you that cold showers don’t work and saying you won’t do it anymore won’t either. Because masturbation has become your MASTER. Its appetite is ferocious and it will not end until it dominates. It will live up to its definition and leave you stupefied! Its three second ecstasy will put you in a stupor and numb your faculties, your senses and sensibility…Your receptivity and emotional response. It will control your intellect, your reasoning, your judgment of things, and your own significance and leave you trapped in a mind full of warped sexual fantasies. It will overpower you, subdue and suppress you, hold you back, paralyze your forward movement and hinder you from walking in what God has for you. Is having sex with yourself even worth it?

I didn’t think so…the only way to come out of the chains of masturbation is to dethrone its power by allowing God to become the MASTER over your sexual drive and appetites. In my book, Single, Saved, and Having Sex, I share with you the effective tools to finally master and conquer the addictive influence of masturbation. Your emails, prayer requests and cry for help over the last several weeks has captured God’s attention . Because of that, I am offering my book not only at a deeply discounted price but I will autograph it and ship it to you the same day you order it. Because the torment of masturbation leaves your life TODAY! You will no longer have to be controlled by masturbation because you will now finally MASTER it!


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Ten Days Of Sex

Day 2 of Sex : Is it possible to stop being gay?

Day 3 of Sex : Say No to Pornography and Sexual Sin – John Piper

Day 4 of Sex : The Master Bait Part 2 – The Madness, The Misery of Masturbation

Day 5 of Sex : Homosexual Questions Uncovered | Passion for Christ Movement –

Day 6 of Sex : The Master Bait – Part 3: Overcoming Masturbation

Day 7 of Sex : Battling Pornography and how the gospel conquers it

Day 8 of Sex : The Master Bait – Part 4: Dameco EX-Masturbator Testimony

Day 9 of Sex : What would you say to a man wanting to sleep with his girlfriend?

Day 10 of Sex : Joshua Harris – Don’t Waste Your Sexuality

  1. Marie says:

    Hey Alan!

    I have a lot of respect for you coming out and speaking so frankly about such a sensitive issue. I know what you say is true – one of my blogs is devoted to counseling Christian women who struggle with eating disorders, and reading your post above I could insert “bulimia” in every place you wrote the “M” word and have it be just as true. The devil has many seductive, lying ways to entice and dominate the child of God. Good that you’re telling the truth about it.

    One question – where on earth did that photo come from? Do people actually WEAR T-shirts like that??

  2. Alan Higgins says:

    Marie, the bible states that the TRUTH will set us free and its only when we deal with these issues truthfully that people can be set free from these problems

    Check out where they do a lot of ‘Ex’ T Shirts.

  3. Nicole says:

    Very well stated! And oh so true!

  4. Alan says:

    I am amazed ! I came across this link when I was researching other material. Fine ,the subject is never addressed in Christian circles, that’s what caught my attention. BUT… “Signed, God ” ??????
    Did God write this Item ? NO.
    Did God sign it ? NO.
    Probably Alan Higgins or some other mortal wrote it.
    The only manefestation of God in human form was Jesus on earth.
    At worst this is blasphemy, at least it is arrogance and detracts from what ever merit the item has.


  5. Alan Higgins says:


    I understand your concern. I dont think that the writer was saying that the article was written by God but that the statement ““Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly-but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder.” is something that God had said (not word for word) in the bible. I hope that clears it up. But to avoid confusion, I have removed it

  6. Sean says:

    I do not think masturbation is wrong. I do agree that the addiction to masturbation is a major problem. I view addictions as little “g” gods. And the God I serve, clearly says not to have any gods before him. So I agree on that point, but saying masturbation is wrong….I’m not sure how I feel about that.

    You made really great points, and its clear that you know the word of God.

    Naturally, adolescent children often masturbate before they realize what it is they are doing. The shame comes from not knowing what it is that their are doing.

    This is quite disturbing, but to help my illustrate my opinion, humans are not the only beings/animals that masturbate.,2933,401722,00.html

    Medically (and naturally), there are quite a few health benefits associated with masturbation. For men especially, ejaculation lowers the risk of prostate cancer.

    Besides, who is to say that God’s plan for everyone is marriage. The scripture says that ” a man that finds a wife, finds a good thing” and not that every man will find a wife!

    So, if it is not God’s will that I am to be married, is it bad for me to masturbate?

    In my opinion, no, not as long as my masturbation does not take away from the relationship that I have with God

  7. Alan Higgins says:

    Sean, here is a question. If you masturbate, what will you thinking about whilst doing the act?

  8. vanessa purdue says:

    This is my first time on your web site. I think its really good I thank you for it. My husband has been addicted to porn and masturbateing for a long time years he can no longer have a normal sex life , he does act out some times but that is a rare thing. It is sad. I my self have masturbated when the years have gone by with out nothing it does fix it for a while but nothing fixes the lonelyness of not haveing someone to love it was never shame that i came away with but anger hurt and the lonelyness for a long time I was angry at him for not being a husband for me but that is what forgiveness is al about. I worried that I would become addicted to it like my husband but that never happened thank the Lord now I think I am to old. Paul said all things are lawful for me but not all things are helpful Everything is lawful for me ,but I will not become the slave of anything. Thats what we have to remember, thanks for letting me drop you a line keep up the good work.


  9. Kaitie says:

    I just happened to come across this site while browsing the web, and this topic caught my eye. After reading through it – with a feeling that I knew where it was headed before even finishing – I just felt that I would add my opinion here as well, seeing as though we’re all entitled to free speech here, right?

    Personally, I feel that masturbation is NOT wrong. Yes, I said it; both the ‘M’ word and that it is ‘NOT’ wrong. There is research out there stating that it is in fact a perfectly natural and healthy thing to do. Children begin experimenting with their bodies at a very young age, before they are told or even understand that it is ‘sinful’. If God frowns upon self gratification, why would it be programmed into their young minds to explore these new feelings in the first place?

    Here’s a little fun fact for you as well: Do you know why you will never see the Bonobo monkey in a zoo? Because all they do all day is eat, sleep, and have sex.

    This brings me to my next point: Bonobo monkeys LOVE sex. Male – female, male – male, female – female, solo, group… If God says that masturbation, sex out of marriage, and pornography are sins, explain to me why He would create a creature that not only masturbates, but is homosexual/bisexual and I suppose pornographic (for lack of a better description for group sex).

    Take a look at the Trobriand Islanders as well: Children begin playing erotic games at the age of about 7 or 8 years and are engaged in the act of sex with others their age at the age of about 13 or 14 years, with multiple partners even! Again, if this is so wrong, then how come God created an entire people with this type of culture?

    Just so you know too: I masturbate and I feel no shame. My boyfriend masturbates and I am sure he too feels no shame. Why should we if it is a natural thing for living creatures to experience? I understand that it is a problem if it interferes with your daily life – you stop eating, you miss work, you become distant from friends and/or family, you never leave the house, etc. – but if it is simply a way for a person to once in awhile relieve a little bit of stress after an awful day… why is that so wrong?

    And as for having sex only after marriage… Intercourse with one’s partner is acceptable, although masturbating in front of them, with them, or for them is not? Seems silly to me. Both people are naked with their various parts in contact anyway.

    There is a lot of writing here I know, but if you took the time to read it then thank you 🙂 I understand that probably many people will take offense to this, but to make it fair, I took some offense to this article as well. Another fact of life: there will always be different opinions; no one person is right, no one person is wrong.

    Thank you.

    • Anonymoose says:

      Hey just thought i’d comment 😛

      Yeah, but little kids also lie, steal, and hit each other before they know it’s wrong. Does than make it ok? And as far as non-christian (even non-christian cultures) there really is no reason to avoid sin outside of a relationship with God. For instance, look at the western world’s sexual culture outside of Christianity. It’s a lot of pre-marital sex as well … but none of that makes it ok for Christians, who have agreed in a sense to live by God’s rules 😉

      And monkeys lie as well. Once they taught chimps sign language, they learned that they’ll lie to stay out of trouble. Are whole world is sinful. Besides, I’m pretty sure God implies his laws to be for humans, not for all animals 😛

      Anyway, I’ve gone over this question a few times myself, don’t get me wrong. But i’m pretty sure i agree with this guy (Dr Ty?)

      ~ Anonymoose

  10. Darren Hurst says:

    hi my name is darren. how can i order your book?? can i order it in spanish??

    thanks. darren

  11. faithbond777 says:

    The only people who will feel shame and guilt on masturbating are Christian fanatics who have been brainwashed into thinking so, by preachers who tend to interpret the bible in their own special way.

    Do tell me, if someone can’t get a partner despite his/her best efforts and has this strong drive, are they going to listen to your banter?

    Do read the link below and tell me if I am wrong.

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