Posts Tagged ‘marriage’

A few months ago, I wrote a post called “But they believe in God, the dangers (and disobedience) of missionary dating”. Well I came across this video from Pastor Justin Cox of, which also touches on this topic in a humerous but also serious way.

I never want to be insensitive to the real struggles that single people have and the temptation to ‘help God out’ but in the long run, it really is not worth it.

As per P4CM:

Young ladies, there is a strong temptation to fulfill the desire you have for relationship with the wrong man too early.  Our P4CM sister Ashley has gone off to college and she’s being encouraged by God that He will be there for her and bring the right man when it’s the right time.  Until then, it’ll just be Him and her.  

Are you willing to wait as well?  See what Ash has to say and be encouraged.

There has been quite a lot of talk about gay marriages lately on both sides of the pond. First here in the UK, the Prime Minister, David Cameron of the Conservative party plans to legalise same-sex marriage. In his words, he said,

‘We’re consulting on legalising gay marriage. To anyone who has reservations, I say: Yes, it’s about equality, but it’s also about something else: commitment. ‘Conservatives believe in the ties that bind us; that society is stronger when we make vows to each other and support each other. So I don’t support gay marriage despite being a Conservative. I support gay marriage because I’m a Conservative.

This is one of the reasons whyI am encouraging UK residents to sign the petition. Maybe its just me but I’m sure this was not part of the Conservative’s manifesto when they campaigned to govern the country.

Then over in America, Kirk cameron caused a big storm with his interview with Piers Morgan. See the video below

After that interview, Kirk got a taster of what Jesus felt and that was to be hated by the world for his views and for standing up for righteousness. To get a taster, I saw this discussion.

The automatic assumption from listening to this is that because the majority of people do not agree with Kirk, that it makes what he said wrong. But as I said in this postthe vast majority of people in this world are NOT christians even if they profess that they are and the vast majority of people are against Christ and they will not be going to heaven

So what can we learn from this?

That if we want to know the definition of something, we cannot argue with the source. If Bill Gates says that an operating system is Windows 7, who am I to tell him that it is not and it is Windows 8? No-one could tell Leonardo da Vinci that the Mona Lisa was actually a picture of his sister. In the same way, God was the one who instituted marriage in the beginning. His definition was from the beginning and is now one man + one woman for life. I did not create marriage and you did not create marriage so none of us have the right to redefine it. Yet man in his arrogance think that we can usurp God’s authority and change the meaning

The bible makes it clear that God’s wrath (not his full wrath) has been revealed which is evident in our world today. How do I know? Romans 1:18,24-28  tells us

18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth……….

24 …………..Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, 25 because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.

26 For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; 27 and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

28 And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.

Three times it states that God has basically ‘left them to it’ and ‘gave them up’ because of their insistent desire to follow their sinful passions.

As well as ‘aiming for the web’ by signing petitions and trying to change laws, which is not a bad thing in itself, we must endevour to ‘aim for the spider’. At the root cause is man’s sinful heart which can only truly be transformed by the power of the gospel and that is what we as Christians must proclaim from the rooftops. That without Christ, man is hopeless, even in a hetrosexual marriage.

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As per the Coalition for Marriage website:

Marriage is unique

Throughout history and in virtually all human societies marriage has always been the union of a man and a woman. Marriage reflects the complementary natures of men and women. Although death and divorce may prevent it, the evidence shows that children do best with a married mother and a father.

No need to redefine

Civil partnerships already provide all the legal benefits of marriage so there’s no need to redefine marriage. It’s not discriminatory to support traditional marriage. Same-sex couples may choose to have a civil partnership but no one has the right to redefine marriage for the rest of us.

Profound Consequences

If marriage is redefined, those who believe in traditional marriage will be sidelined. People’s careers could be harmed, couples seeking to adopt or foster could be excluded, and schools would inevitably have to teach the new definition to children. If marriage is redefined once, what is to stop it being redefined to allow polygamy?

Speak Up

People should not feel pressurised to go along with same-sex marriage just because of political correctness. They should be free to express their views. The Government will be launching a public consultation on proposals to redefine marriage. This will provide an opportunity for members of the public to make their views known.

Please click on the button below to make your voice heard. This petition is restricted to UK residents who are aged 16 years or over

There has been many talk about Whitney Houston’s death and my prayers go out to the family at this testing time but in all of the commotion, what about Bobby Brown? Yes, I understand that he has made some mistakes and he will probably be villified by the world for the rest of his life for ‘contributing’ to Whitney’s death and he is facing the consequences for a lot of his actions but I had to ask myself, what should the Christians response be to Bobby Brown. It can be so easy for us as Christians to forget that some of us were sinners and it took God’s grace to come and rescue us.

Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Cor 6:9-11)

Someone took time to share their faith with us, someone took time to give us that gospel tract, someone took time to bear with us while we was doing crazy stuff, someone prayed for us continually, someone had compasion on us when we was in our madness, someone listened to us while we was hurting inside and no-one knew about it, someone understood while we behaved why we did because of negative things that happened to us early in our life.

Lets pray for Bobby Brown as God’s hand is not too short that He cannot reach him even when to us, it may look hopeless. With God, all things are possible.

This is one of those sayings that I hear too many times. I normally hear it after a christian tries to justify dating a non believer. To those who don’t know what missionary dating, it is basically when a Christian dates a non-Christian and then tries to convert them while they are dating them. The Christian knows within their heart that the other person is not a Christian, but deceives themself into thinking that it is still OK because ‘they believe in God’.

A female called TBS wrote to Trisha Ramos (Taken from Fish with Trish) with the following question addressing this point:

I’m dating this Muslim guy, and after my ex’s, which have been Muslim too, I thought I would never date another. I know what I want in my future husband and to have him believe and practice my faith as well. He is completely an awesome guy and I do love him. NOTHING like my past relationships. Ive made it clear I WILL NOT MARRY anyone who isn’t Christian. So he’s told me he loves me as well and would love to learn, look into Christianity and has been doing research on his own as well. Def. would love to bring him to services with me….Ive also questioned his converting.. if that’s what he chooses, I would not want it to be because of me solely and that he would want to on his own. I know he cant get to heaven though ME! My question. Do I wait? Or know this will end terribly and end it now? I’m just so confused and thought I could come to you for some advice! – TBS
Here is the reply which I know will answer many of you who find yourself in a similar position dating a non-believer:
Dear TBS,
<will end terribly and end it now?>>
My advice and the bibles advice: Don’t date him. But rather, witness to him and then keep your distance. If he is a true convert, invite him to church (to meet you there) and that is the only context in which I would see him. Then you’ll see if he is serious about the Lord. If he continues to go for a long period of time and demonstrates genuine repentance, it might be evidence that he is going because of the Lord and not just for you.

Remember, there is no such thing as “missionary” dating. We don’t date to convert. Don’t “date” him in hopes that he will get “saved”. Rather, get to know someone who IS a Christian and then marry.

You are not to be unequally yoked (2 Cor 6:14,1 John 1:6). So scripture is clear that you are to cut it off. Imagine a Christian spouse toying with the question, “Is it okay for me to commit adultery…maybe I’ll pray about it?” Scripture makes it clear that you are never to commit adultery. In the same way, scripture makes it clear that you are not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. You don’t have to debate or pray about cutting it off. God has given you the manual (the Bible) to guide you and to light your path (Psalm 119:105).

And also remember that you have a real adversary (The Devil) who
seeks to devour and destroy you. There is a spiritual battle going on here (2 Cor 10:5, Eph 6:12).

I’m so glad you have emailed. I hope this has helped a bit.

I know I have been late but over the Christmas period, I watched the film Fireproof and I personally think it has to be one of the best, if not the best Christian film that I have watched. Here is a brief description of the film:

At work, inside burning buildings, Capt. Caleb Holt lives by the old firefighter’s adage: Never leave your partner behind. At home, in the cooling embers of his marriage, he lives by his own rules. Growing up, Catherine Holt always dreamed of marrying a loving, brave firefighter…just like her daddy. Now, after seven years of marriage, Catherine wonders when she stopped being “good enough” for her husband. Regular arguments over jobs, finances, housework, and outside interests have readied them both to move on to something with more sparks. As the couple prepares to enter divorce proceedings, Caleb’s father challenges his son to commit to a 40-day experiment: “The Love Dare.” Wondering if it’s even worth the effort, Caleb agrees-for his father’s sake more than for his marriage. When Caleb discovers the books daily challenges are tied into his parents’ newfound faith, his already limited interest is further dampened. While trying to stay true to his promise, Caleb becomes frustrated time and again. He finally asks his father, “How am I supposed to show love to somebody who constantly rejects me?” When his father explains that this is the love Christ shows to us, Caleb makes a life-changing commitment to love God. And, “with God’s help” he begins to understand what it means to truly love his wife. But is it too late to fireproof his marriage? His job is to rescue others. Now, Caleb Holt is ready to face his toughest job ever … rescuing his wife’s heart.

Last year, I attended The Marriage Course in my church which I found very helpful indeed, especially when it came to love languages. However, there was so much to learn and from so many different angles. If your church is hosting on or you know a church which is, I would highly recommend attending,  as you will learn things that you probably wouldn’t have thought about before.

Without giving away the story in Fireproof, the 40-day experiment is based on The Love Dare which…

…….. …personally leads you through daily devotionals, records your thoughts and experiences, and ends each day daring you to perform a simple act of love for your spouse. This 40-Day journey equips you to melt hardened, separated hearts into an enduring love that can withstand the flames of fear, pride and temptation. The Love Dare book will help you reinforce and enrich your marriage, earn back a love you thought was lost, and hear more about the One who not only designed unconditional, sacrificial love—He illustrated it.

In a world that attacks, devalues, and redefines relationships every day, learn how to rescue and protect your marriage from the firestorm. Take The Love Dare and FIREPROOF your relationship.

Topics Discussed in The Love Dare book

In FIREPROOF, The Love Dare covers the topics of relationship parasites (addictions like pornography and gambling) and unconditional love. The Love Dare devotional book expands and extends the topics addressed in the film’s plot to include such vital issues as:

  • Why Marriage? Explore the blessings and challenges of godly marriage.
  • Contract or Covenant? Examine the difference between the world’s design for marriage and God’s original intention.
  • Clean Fighting. Learn how to fight the fires of conflict effectively and respectfully.
  • Leading Your Heart, Instead of Vice Versa. Practice choosing love when it isn’t your instinctive respon

To read the Love Dare and maybe use it in your marriage, click on one of the versions below

The Love Dare – Full Version

The Love Dare – Condensed Version

Bad Hermeneutics (John MacArthur)

Posted: February 4, 2010 in Theology and Doctrine
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Taking God’s Word seriously means many hours of diligent study, which produces doctrinal coherence and theological consistency. That’s not what today’s evangelicals are known for. So how do we remedy that?