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There has been quite a lot of talk about gay marriages lately on both sides of the pond. First here in the UK, the Prime Minister, David Cameron of the Conservative party plans to legalise same-sex marriage. In his words, he said,

‘We’re consulting on legalising gay marriage. To anyone who has reservations, I say: Yes, it’s about equality, but it’s also about something else: commitment. ‘Conservatives believe in the ties that bind us; that society is stronger when we make vows to each other and support each other. So I don’t support gay marriage despite being a Conservative. I support gay marriage because I’m a Conservative.

This is one of the reasons whyI am encouraging UK residents to sign the petition. Maybe its just me but I’m sure this was not part of the Conservative’s manifesto when they campaigned to govern the country.

Then over in America, Kirk cameron caused a big storm with his interview with Piers Morgan. See the video below

After that interview, Kirk got a taster of what Jesus felt and that was to be hated by the world for his views and for standing up for righteousness. To get a taster, I saw this discussion.

The automatic assumption from listening to this is that because the majority of people do not agree with Kirk, that it makes what he said wrong. But as I said in this postthe vast majority of people in this world are NOT christians even if they profess that they are and the vast majority of people are against Christ and they will not be going to heaven

So what can we learn from this?

That if we want to know the definition of something, we cannot argue with the source. If Bill Gates says that an operating system is Windows 7, who am I to tell him that it is not and it is Windows 8? No-one could tell Leonardo da Vinci that the Mona Lisa was actually a picture of his sister. In the same way, God was the one who instituted marriage in the beginning. His definition was from the beginning and is now one man + one woman for life. I did not create marriage and you did not create marriage so none of us have the right to redefine it. Yet man in his arrogance think that we can usurp God’s authority and change the meaning

The bible makes it clear that God’s wrath (not his full wrath) has been revealed which is evident in our world today. How do I know? Romans 1:18,24-28  tells us

18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth……….

24 …………..Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, 25 because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.

26 For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; 27 and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

28 And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.

Three times it states that God has basically ‘left them to it’ and ‘gave them up’ because of their insistent desire to follow their sinful passions.

As well as ‘aiming for the web’ by signing petitions and trying to change laws, which is not a bad thing in itself, we must endevour to ‘aim for the spider’. At the root cause is man’s sinful heart which can only truly be transformed by the power of the gospel and that is what we as Christians must proclaim from the rooftops. That without Christ, man is hopeless, even in a hetrosexual marriage.

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As per the Coalition for Marriage website:

Marriage is unique

Throughout history and in virtually all human societies marriage has always been the union of a man and a woman. Marriage reflects the complementary natures of men and women. Although death and divorce may prevent it, the evidence shows that children do best with a married mother and a father.

No need to redefine

Civil partnerships already provide all the legal benefits of marriage so there’s no need to redefine marriage. It’s not discriminatory to support traditional marriage. Same-sex couples may choose to have a civil partnership but no one has the right to redefine marriage for the rest of us.

Profound Consequences

If marriage is redefined, those who believe in traditional marriage will be sidelined. People’s careers could be harmed, couples seeking to adopt or foster could be excluded, and schools would inevitably have to teach the new definition to children. If marriage is redefined once, what is to stop it being redefined to allow polygamy?

Speak Up

People should not feel pressurised to go along with same-sex marriage just because of political correctness. They should be free to express their views. The Government will be launching a public consultation on proposals to redefine marriage. This will provide an opportunity for members of the public to make their views known.

Please click on the button below to make your voice heard. This petition is restricted to UK residents who are aged 16 years or over

I know I have been late but over the Christmas period, I watched the film Fireproof and I personally think it has to be one of the best, if not the best Christian film that I have watched. Here is a brief description of the film:

At work, inside burning buildings, Capt. Caleb Holt lives by the old firefighter’s adage: Never leave your partner behind. At home, in the cooling embers of his marriage, he lives by his own rules. Growing up, Catherine Holt always dreamed of marrying a loving, brave firefighter…just like her daddy. Now, after seven years of marriage, Catherine wonders when she stopped being “good enough” for her husband. Regular arguments over jobs, finances, housework, and outside interests have readied them both to move on to something with more sparks. As the couple prepares to enter divorce proceedings, Caleb’s father challenges his son to commit to a 40-day experiment: “The Love Dare.” Wondering if it’s even worth the effort, Caleb agrees-for his father’s sake more than for his marriage. When Caleb discovers the books daily challenges are tied into his parents’ newfound faith, his already limited interest is further dampened. While trying to stay true to his promise, Caleb becomes frustrated time and again. He finally asks his father, “How am I supposed to show love to somebody who constantly rejects me?” When his father explains that this is the love Christ shows to us, Caleb makes a life-changing commitment to love God. And, “with God’s help” he begins to understand what it means to truly love his wife. But is it too late to fireproof his marriage? His job is to rescue others. Now, Caleb Holt is ready to face his toughest job ever … rescuing his wife’s heart.

Last year, I attended The Marriage Course in my church which I found very helpful indeed, especially when it came to love languages. However, there was so much to learn and from so many different angles. If your church is hosting on or you know a church which is, I would highly recommend attending,  as you will learn things that you probably wouldn’t have thought about before.

Without giving away the story in Fireproof, the 40-day experiment is based on The Love Dare which…

…….. …personally leads you through daily devotionals, records your thoughts and experiences, and ends each day daring you to perform a simple act of love for your spouse. This 40-Day journey equips you to melt hardened, separated hearts into an enduring love that can withstand the flames of fear, pride and temptation. The Love Dare book will help you reinforce and enrich your marriage, earn back a love you thought was lost, and hear more about the One who not only designed unconditional, sacrificial love—He illustrated it.

In a world that attacks, devalues, and redefines relationships every day, learn how to rescue and protect your marriage from the firestorm. Take The Love Dare and FIREPROOF your relationship.

Topics Discussed in The Love Dare book

In FIREPROOF, The Love Dare covers the topics of relationship parasites (addictions like pornography and gambling) and unconditional love. The Love Dare devotional book expands and extends the topics addressed in the film’s plot to include such vital issues as:

  • Why Marriage? Explore the blessings and challenges of godly marriage.
  • Contract or Covenant? Examine the difference between the world’s design for marriage and God’s original intention.
  • Clean Fighting. Learn how to fight the fires of conflict effectively and respectfully.
  • Leading Your Heart, Instead of Vice Versa. Practice choosing love when it isn’t your instinctive respon

To read the Love Dare and maybe use it in your marriage, click on one of the versions below

The Love Dare – Full Version

The Love Dare – Condensed Version

In trying to get our theology correct, it can be so easy to forget that humans and families are going through various struggles every day. Whether this be sickness, homelessness, persecution, death and the list goes on and on.
This was further emphasised when I received a facebook message from some who had read my previous post and was touched as she was in a similar situation as Laura did in the post ,where she finds herself with someone who was not walking with Christ (Note: I just to clarify that this person was not a christian at the begining of her relationship) and as a result, was facing various struggles in her marriage. Well I pointed her to Laura and Darren who made this video tesimony which I find amazing how Christ can truly transform a family. For example, as I write this, Darren’s facebook status reads ‘just finished a gospel tract drop. Pray for results tenfold…..‘. Now that is a transformation. Anyway, I hope you enjoy the video
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Yes, we must get our theology right but let us never forget that because we have been shown love while we were yet sinners, we should extend that love to others in anyway we can. Whether that be physically, financially, spiritually, materially or it could be as simple as giving a word of encouragement.

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An encouraging testimony for those who have unsaved spouses

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me-and-maxYou probably guessed that I am back from my honeymoon and all I can say is I LOVE ME-HI-CO. Me and my wife had an excellent time and the wedding went very smoothly.

Saying that though, we realiase that the honeymoon period does not have to end but we also understand that love is not just about being all lovey dovey all day. It is a lot more. While we were lying down on the sandy beaches (don’t be jealous), we both were listening to John Macarthurs sermons on ‘The Fulfilled Family’ which were very challenging and we both began to realise what our roles are as husband and wife. I strongly advise engaged couples, married couples and even those who wish to be married to listen to these sermons. The links can be found here.

You can view a copy of my wedding speech here

Yes everyone, this is the main reason why I have been quiet on the blogging side. I have been spending a lot of time preparing for today. In fact, by the time you read this, I may either be in the middle of saying my vows or have finished saying them.

I have been listening to John Macarthurs sermons on God’s pattern for husbands/wives and it has been very encouraging and challenging at the same time. I recognise that I now take on the role of Christ and I must care for my bride in the same way that Christ cares for his bride. I am praying with God’s help, our marriage will just be a reflection of Christ’s beautiful relationship that he has with us.

I’ll be off to Mexico for a couple of weeks on my honeymoon so again, it will take some time for me to get back to some kind of consistency as I love blogging and I have quite a few articles to finish

I know you will be praying for us so would like to thank you in advance

 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

This is a profound mystery — but I am talking about Christ and the church.

 EPHESIANS 5:31-32

 PS. Love you Maxine. Thanks for being my wife and for the priviledge of being your husband